Sunday, 28 November 2010

Is the life you are leading worth the cost you are paying?

The range of what we think and do

Is limited by what we fail to notice

And because we fail to notice

That we fail to notice

There is little we can do to change

Until we notice

How failing to notice

Shapes our thoughts and deeds

Daniel Goleman

Over the next few minutes, hours, days weeks and months ahead I invite you to begin to start to notice, those things that until now you have not paid attention to.

You may choose to consider 5 key areas of your life and pay attention to what you have previously been unaware of

Consider how satisfied you are with each of your life, you may choose to give yourself a score of how satisfied you are marks out of 10.

1. Physical self; your diet, exercise, sleep, habits, energy levels, your possessions etc

2. Social self; how you care for your friends, family, colleagues and acquaintances, how you spend your leisure time, your communication and listening skills etc

3. Intellectual self; how you continue to stimulate your mind by learning and developing new skills the left brain logical skills and the right brain creativity.

4. Emotional self; your ability to respond rather than react, how you are able to pay attention to your feelings moment by moment and chose your state, your ability to consider the emotional needs of yourself and others.

5. Spiritual self; your connection with your sense of purpose

If you notice that you are dissatisfied with any of these 5 areas of your life and want to make a change, call me 07989 757 884 or e mail me

Thursday, 4 November 2010

Preview my next article in Implant Dentistry Today

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Managing your critical voices part 4

The top seven ways to manage the critical voices in your head

  • Notice it. Sounds very simple and yet becoming an observer to the dialogue in your mind will dis-empower it. All that is required is that you notice when the voice starts and what it is saying and pay attention as if you are a fly on the wall listening in.
  • Assume that it is positive Once you have noticed it I invite you to engage with the critical voice assuming it wants something positive of good for you. Start by saying “Hello and thank you” then ask it what it is trying to bring to your attention, or how it wants to help you. Once it gives you the answers remember to say thank you.
  • Replace it Once you have noticed a critical thought or voice, you can immediately replace it with another thought or comment that is much more constructive, helpful or supportive to you.
  • Remain neutral. Like in the playground, the bully is always looking to elicit a response from their victim, and when you don’t respond they leave you alone. Similarly with your critical voice, as you learn not to respond emotionally to it, it will also leave you alone.
  • Agree and exaggerate next time you notice a critical voice agree with it, exaggerate it to the point of ridiculousness, take it to the point of farce when a smile breaks over your face or you giggle at the lunacy of what the critical voice was trying to suggest before.
  • Give the voice a character the voices in our head often seem to belong to no-one, next time you hear it create a cartoon character that the voice belongs to. Your goal is to make the character as ridiculous as possible, give it a curly wurly nose, our wobbly ears or anything so that when you notice the character that was being critical it is impossible to take it seriously.
  • Change the voice as you next notice your critical voice, pay attention to the qualities of the voice rather than what it is saying. These could include
    • Pitch
    • Tempo
    • Volume
    • Rhythm
    • Tonality
    • Timbre
    • Location
    • Distance
    • Clarity
    • Duration
    • Stereo/ mono or surround sound

As you notice the qualities of the voice then change them, make it quieter, move the source further away, make it softer and more melodic, as you notice the changes notice how you feel differently, make all the changes you need to make so the critical voice can no longer elicit a negative response from you.

Tuesday, 2 November 2010

Is your practice going bankrupt?

This morning I had a conversation with the technician I used when I was in practice. He told me that three of his clients had gone bust and left him with a £1000 hole in his accounts.

Some dental practices are really feeling the pinch, and have empty appointment books and even going bust, is your practice one of them?

Are you ignoring the early warning signs that your practice is in trouble?

Do you know what the early warning signs are?

I was reminded about my own experience many years ago, when I had my wake-up call that I knew how to be a dentist and not run a successful dental practice as a business.

I discovered that a key employee was embezzling large sums of money, leaving me with a very large hole in my finances.

In that moment I knew that the situation had to change and I must learn the business of running a successful practice, so I recruited my first coach, attended lots of seminars on workshops on business management and read more books than I care to remember and most importantly I took action and changed the way I ran my practice. In a very short period of time I cleared the debt and was in a very financially secure position and running a successful profitable practice.

Would you like to know more?

I can definitely help you if your practice is in financial problems or have seen a drop off in the number of patients you are seeing.

Last year I started working with a client who was about to liquidate her business, she had laid off all but 2 of her staff. The other week I called in on her, she was recruiting a new member of staff to join the existing team of seven people. She told me that she was so busy and had so much work coming in she almost didn’t know how to manage it. Her business is now also turning in a healthy profit. A great success story that shows the value of coaching,

To find out how working with me can transform your practice too e mail me on or call me on 07989757884

Mouth Cancer Action Month 1-30th November 2010

A person dies every 5 hours from mouth cancer.

More people die of mouth cancer than from ovarian and testicular cancer combined.

I have often wondered why more people don’t know about oral cancer. Maybe with high profile cases like Michael Douglas the tide will now turn.

I was fortunate to be at the launch mouth cancer action month yesterday at the Houses of Parliament, this was a fantastic event organised by the British Dental Health Foundation.

Let’s all get behind this campaign and work towards raising awareness of the disease itself and that as dentists we are a vital link in the early detection and diagnosis and successful treatment.

Finally I would like to thank Amanda Oakley from the BDHF

and John Barry and Kevin Coyle from The Dental Plan who invited me to join them.