How to manage the voices in your head

In my last post I suggested that you have a voice(s) in your head that are generally critical and unhelpful, and ultimately prevent you from being as successful as you want to be, and that there are many ways that we can quieten the critical voice so we can hear ourselves think, make better decisions and actually achieve what we want to.

Today’s strategy is to embrace the message.

Have you ever had a child that continually calls your name attempting to attract your attention because it wants to tell you something?

A great friend of mine, we’ll call her Lucy, who lives on a farm once told me of a story of how she put her child in the car and as she was driving off the child started saying “Mummy chicken” Lucy replied “yes the chickens are at home”, really ignoring her daughter. Her daughter’s cries became louder “Mummy Chicken” and louder “Mummy chicken”. The more Lucy ignored her daughter the louder her cries became; eventually she was shouting “Mummy Chicken”. Lucy stopped the car only to discover that one of their pet chickens was in the back of the car.

If Lucy noticed that her daughter had a message, and listened to it she would have saved herself a lot of time and effort that she spent driving home again to return the chicken.

And so it is with our critical voice, if we listen to what it wants to tell us it will go away. I invite you next time you hear your critical voice to embrace it by saying “Thank you for speaking up, I know you have something really valuable to tell me or to make me be aware of, what is it you want me to know?”

Listen to its answer and thank it once again.

AS you develop a habit of embracing the message your critical voice has, always assuming it has something positive or purposeful to offer you, notice what happens. It will soften, become less critical and much more supportive.

You now have two new ways to approach your critical voice. More will follow over the next few postings

Ways to quieten a critical internal voice

Notice it

Embrace the message

If before then you have noticed that you have very noisy critical voices in your head that are stopping you from doing or being something you want to, call me and I will enable you to keep them quiet permanently. Call me on 07989 757884 or e mail jane@healthyandwealthy.co.uk

If you have any critical voice stories do please share them with me on the comment box below.