Are you suffering from the curse of the vampires?

Are you suffering from the curse of the vampires?

 

Last night was Halloween and I saw plenty of vampires out trick or treating. And some were pretty realistic looking and scary. Contrary to opinion vampires don’t come out just on a full moon and Halloween, they are rubbing shoulders with you every day,  casting their evil spells on you, if you are is open to  their hypnotic stories, and before you know it you have been bewitched by their powers, and become one of them.

The everyday vampire do not have pointy canines, wear black or drink blood, they are well disguised as family members, members of your team, friends or you may actually be one. I call the everyday vampires energy vampires, the come in different disguises and here is how to recognise them. The one thing all energy vampires have in common is that you feel bad, this could be anything ranging from a mild sense of ill ease or the extreme of making you feel like life is not worth living and you want to slash your wrists.

There are several species of vampire, I will share their key traits and notice which ones you recognise?

·        The victim or drama queen. They experience a constant string of catastrophic experiences all of which are someone else’s responsibility or fault. Life acts upon them. And they steel from you by expecting you to listen to all their woes, and don’t actually want anything to improve, they don’t want to find solutions or to take responsibility, they enjoy being miserable and would like you to join them in their irresponsibility and victimhood.

·        The guilter. This type of vampire, steals your spirit by making you feel guilty about what you have or haven’t done. It may have been years ago that you made a transgression against a guilter and they will never let you forget it irrespective of how many apologies of whatever amends you make.

·        The jealous, this type of vampire cannot be pleased for anyone else, honour or celebrate their success. If you try and share something joyful in your life with them you will walk away feeling bad about it. The jealous wants what someone else has and is seldom prepared to put in the time or effort to create the results; they want the world to be given to them on a plate. Common behaviour traits also include, whining, bitching, and gossiping.

·        The insecure. The insecure vampires have an insidious trait of making themselves feel better about themselves by putting others down. These vampires are very quick to criticise, find fault and seldom praise, that or congratulate others. A sub species of the insecure vampire include the bully, the gossip, the angry, the violent that will use size, status, money, age and other factors to belittle you and elevate their own self-importance.

·        Kill-joy vampires, a dark breed that don’t allow themselves or those around them to have fun, the spot danger and risks rather than opportunities and adventures. Life for a kill joy vampire is a dangerous and scary place.

How can you protect yourself?

Convention says that to protect yourself from a vampire you can carry a bible, wear a cross, scatter rice or grain, use garlic, and to destroy them use a stake or silver bullet to pierce their heart. How do you protect and destroy yourself from energy vampires?

The two most effective methods

• Learn to be conscious, and recognise the signs when someone else is stealing your energy and you feel bad as a result.
• Chose not to spend any more time with these people. If the y are clients sack them, if they are family avoid them if they are friends find new ones.

If you are not ready to step away from your energy vampires you can learn how to manage your responses to them and this can be done by using one or all of the following techniques

• Recognise what specifically in their behaviour brings you down, e.g. persistent criticism and ask them not to do it.
• Change your focus so that you can identify and dwell on their good points.
• Change your internal dialogue.
• Change your breathing, when someone is stealing your energy you will often feel stressed, your breathing is likely to become shallow, rapid and shorter, actively take longer, slower deeper breaths.
• Use your imagination.to encase yourself in a protective shield so that you are safe from the vampires negative vibes.
• Set boundaries about how much time you spend with them, what activities you engage with them on, and what behaviours you will and won’t tolerate.
• Use them as a self-development tool. Often the traits we see and dislike in others we also exhibit in ourselves. Become curious and when you become aware of a behaviour you don’t like, ask yourself “When and with who am I like this and how can I change?”
• Immerse yourself with people, in places, activities that re-create, nourish and feed your spirit.

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