Resentment is like an allergy

Resentment is like an  allergy

If you or someone you know has a peanut sensitivity, each time peanut products are eaten peanut, your response will be more marked and more rapid and what started as a minor itch on contact with peanuts will escalate  o a risk of anaphylaxis.

Have you noticed how when someone does something that aggrieves you and makes you feel bad, angry or resentful on subsequent occasions if that same person makes even a minor mistake, or says something with an inappropriate tone or attitude towards you the feeling of annoyance is out of proportion to the trigger. Have you also noticed, that like the peanut allergy, subsequent events trigger negative feelings more rapidly that last longer and are felt more intensively? In a short period of time, you notice there is a deep sense of resentment being harboured and expectation that the person concerned is going to injure your feelings do something wrong on every occasion and you find yourself not only expecting the wrong doing, you are actually looking for it, to justify your righteous indignation.

"Resentment is like drinking poison and hoping it will kill your enemies.” Nelson Mandela

The success of your practice is entirely dependent on the sill. performance and cohesion of your team.

Consider now, are any members of your team harbouring resentment or animosity towards you or another colleague, and if so how is it impacting your practice, team, patients and bottom line?

"There are risks and costs to action. But they are far less than the long-range risks of comfortable inaction. " John F. Kennedy

Are you comfortably taking no action, ignoring any disharmony between team members? Or are you taking action to develop a culture of building and repairing forgiving, trustful healthy relationships?

"Leaders don't do what is easy they do what is right"

What difference would it make to your team, if by setting an example as soon you realized that you had upset a colleague you apologized, sought forgiveness and reconciliation? How could you create a culture and opportunities that your team are able to be safely honestly, truthfully express when they feel aggrieved so that forgiveness and reparation can achieved creating a strong harmonious team?